Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Rule Book of Bollocks

What a bunch of absolute fuckery listening to people debate and whine about dating a chic who has a history string of 7-10 guys below the belt. I mean, is that what the problem is with Nigeria today? Guys paying too much attention to womenfolk's vagina and judging her by statistics? So if she dated 10 guys in 10 years and slept with all ten that makes her whore? Mothers telling their daughters bullcrap like "I was a virgin when i married your dad" is bollocks number two after "I always came first in school" in the rule book of bollocks our parent's say.

Who died and made you judge over Israel? How dare you decide what to tell a woman based on the people she's been with. What do you know of her life, her struggles, her pains, her weaknesses, the circumstances that drove her to do the things she did? A woman sleeps for money-its an issue. She sleeps for fun-its wahala. She kpoxes her man-its wahala. What the hell is wrong! You quote the bible and lay emphasis on the verses that state a woman should be virtuous. Didn't your bible tell you that virginity is not a virtue? (A virtuous woman is explained in Proverbs 31). Are you telling me that a virgin who has committed patricide, murder, sodomy or has stolen from the church, her company and oppressed those beneath her is virtuous all because her hymen is intact? Get thee behind me satan. 

I suppose when you asked your girlfriend how many guys she had been with, she said you were the second right? In your mind you've snagged one of the good ones shei? Lets think about this for a moment- you date a girl who has just slept with two guys, but has no job, is lousy in public, can't stand your family and is rude to all your friends or on the other side, she's had seven lovers, is a great cook, has a great job, is church going, and an introvert-which of them would you pick. Yes, you have to choose one, you can't have it all.

At the end of the day, sex doesn't last forever. When we are old, and our bones are too weak to support us, and we begin to lose our ability to hold urine or hold in fart, what happens next? We obviously cannot have sex. Is it gonna matter then if your wife slept with 10 men? If you guys are not friends, or if you do not get with someone who you find attractive spiritually, mentally, academically, socially and physically then you're gonna grow old to be a miserable excuse of a human being.

Every woman's body is hers to do with as they so please. I'm not saying you should go all domitilla on yours but didn't Martin Luther King say we should be judged by the content of our character? A woman should never be fucking judged by the amount of guys she's slept with. Its a fucking ridiculous mentality and O kod belso to all the guys who think otherwise. For the ladies who go around running their mouths and stabbing other girls in the back. Keep doing what you're doing because that's the highest level you'll ever get to in life. You  think you're Miss goody-2-shoes because no one knows about the dragon size skeletons in your closest. If you've really only slept with two guys i'm really happy for you.  It can only be one of three things: You're just into your second relationship, You're a lesbian, or you're a really principled person. Either way, let that decision be yours and not reflect on others. I'm really pleased for you either way.

I had this acquaintance who went on and on and on about how her friends were sluts and how she couldn't stand aristo girls/girls who dated married men and how they were all going to hell. She would give speeches about how her mom taught her better and all that. They are your friends, why can't you talk to them? Why badmouth them to me?  Do you know how annoying it is to listen to such holier than thou people? Yesterday i just got fed up and said to her, "Your mom is a freaking third wife, how the hell do you think she got there?" I'm against ladies dating married men, it is so wrong on many different levels. But if i had a friend doing such, you can be sure i'd give them a piece of my mind-not ramble about it to some acquaintance. 

All i'm saying is that there are more important things in life. There are women getting raped and assaulted everyday, Men dying at war, Children being sold into all sorts of slavery, malnourished, dying of diseases and starvation, Hurricanes, famines, wild fires, tsunamis, earthquakes, poverty, world hunger, joblessness, Ozone layer falling apart and in Nigeria boko haram and what not. What have you done to help your neighbour who is destitute or a stranger in need? When last did you visit an Orphanage or donate to your local church or mosque? There are more pressing issues in this life than sitting on your butts wondering if or why the chic you're with has slept with over seven guys. Its not that serious-yet.



17 comments:

Laurenta said...

#GBAM

Gbemi said...

oh wow!!! You sound so pissed off, and yet you speak the truth. As a married woman, i'd be upset if i found out my husband was dating.

EsteribyEnii said...

the truth speaks. you sound miffed.

If I have read you right, this is not about married men who date (@Gbemi) but more about girls and the choices they make.

I dont think dating married men is a good thing but I still wouldnt judge a girl who has or is ... it takes two to tango they say.

What amazes me the most is that the men who judge the women dont consider that they could be judged too!

Yes a man can be a slut too how about that? why is no one going on about that? when a man sleeps with a whole town - he is a sexy goat! when a woman does - she is a worthless slut.

The one that annoys me the most is when women talk this crap about other women - how frequently do you hear guys talk each other down? seriously?

It is well oh

gretel said...

oh well,you sound really pissed but you've made a point..hat's the idea talking and judging ish when this babe is prolly very productive and adds more to the society or is working?
well...I've not slept with guy 1 yet..yes..it's a shame,no,I'm not a lesbian and I'm not very principled either....it's my fucken choice.

chillysauce said...

Nice write up, i agree, but why did u have to swear so much? you messed up an otherwise beautiful passage.

lala said...

I fucking(I'm only swearing because of @chillysauce) love your blog, and you Mara-d.

Myne Whitman said...

It's definitely not that serious. You've said it all.

Madame French said...

@ Chilly sauce abeg park well. she's allowed to swear. Its her blog noni. We read it, we're used to it.

@Gretel, true. but she did say if you've only slept with two guys. Not if you're a virgin.

Phury you sound upset but i suppose i understand. Guys always label women all the time. Its so stereotypical. And the way girls talk about each other? I just can't.

Diva said...

I couldn't have said it better..*i might have sworn more*

Lmbyao @ the product of adultery judging people who date married men!!!
Talk about selective amnesia!!!

Well written as usual...Bravo!!!!

Anonymous said...

Chillysauce! Na wa o! She's allowed to swear if she fuckin wants abeg!

Anya Posh said...

The last sentence in paragraph 2...ON POINT! dang, i love the fury in this post. there's so much more to life than the notches in your belt.

LohiO said...

I had a convo with a friend about this garbage a few days ago...I am just going to direct him to this post. well said!

Anonymous said...

LOL.. SO OBVIOUSLY YOU SLEEP AROUND AND PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT YOU?? wHY ELSE WOULD YOU BE SO UPSET.

I AGREE WITH SOME OF THE CONTENT ON YOUR WRITE UP.. BUT PRESENTATION IS KEY..

Anonymous said...

I didnt mean to sound so harsh.. I feel bad.. Im sorry.

p.s; I dont think you sleep around.. u were just airing your opinion.

Sowwy : )

Hyperfashun said...

Maddy i love u 4 this post.

Gbenga said...

Well said. It is quite irritating the double standard. Causes women to be dishonest about their sexual history and men exagerate their's. It really isn't that serious. Character, great attraction and God's blessing are the things to be focused on when choosing a spouse. Focus on the unimportant things, you might find yourself suprised,

Anonymous said...

Hold up! While I applaud d fact that how many a chic has slept with got nothing to do with her xter I don't like d fact that u said a mother telling her daughter to remain virgin till marriage is bullcrap! That's wrong. We follow God's rules don't go making urs. Humans just choose which commandments to obey...smh any young girl who decides to remain a virgin will be discouraged by this post. Fornication is a sin but people do it n God forgives so which ever way one wants to live is and should not be called 'bullocks'