Case of the Ex

I broke up with my last boyfriend for one simple reason-He slept with his ex while we were dating. As crazy as it may sound, this happens to a lot of people. The forbidden Okafor's Law, always rearing its head making people feel that kpoxing their ex really doesn't matter as they already kpoxed before. I have no problem with people who do this-as long as you are not in a relationship at the time.

No one ever stops for one second in their selfish, lust filled haze to think about the other person. Hello!!! the guy/girl that your ex is currently dating. You know, that person he calls every night after he's fucked you to brazil and back, the same one he goes to the cinema with, travels with, the same one his family and friends know, yes-that same one he's blown you six degrees to the north off for. There is a reason this person is your ex. The stupidest things that we chics do is believe that great sex means that the guy is in love with us. He kpoxes you so good, you fail to notice that you broke up for a reason. Why oh why do the ex-es keep coming back like zombies?

 Don't you just hate it when you spend a night at your man's house and past midnight his phone rings. Its the ex, crying that she misses her dad (who by the way died when she was 3 months old) and how she's alone and does he have time to talk? He looks over at you as if to say 'I'm sorry but i have to take this'. You lie there thinking 'WTF does she want at 1:30am in the morning? If you don't drop that phone it would be your funeral she will be attending tomorrow'. But you don't want to be the mad, over possessive, jealous, control freak of a girlfriend, so you swallow your objections and smile. He takes his call and you fume inside.

This trend continues and one day he's comforting her personally on a bed or she's the one doing the comforting after a huge fight between you and him. He gets up and tells her it was a mistake and that he loves you. The damage has been done though. He goes home and calls you, tells you he misses you and has been home all day with a fever. You go to see him and stay the night. The ex calls again that night and by now you're suspecting something. He gets up to leave the room this time and gives you the 'i have to take this call look' again, only this time you grab the phone and the following ensures:

You: Hello, who's this?

She: Erm... is this bloopah's phone?

You: Yeah...and you are

She: Can i speak to him?

You: It depends....about what?

She: Are you for real? please give the phone to the owner

You: Right now, i am the owner. You had your chance and you fucked it up. Look for someone else to tell your tales of woe to because from now on, we aren't buying your shit.

 Or maybe a different Scenario.....

 

You: Don't you have a damn watch? I've had enough of your bullshit stories and pitiful excuses to call at 2am in the morning. If you're so lonely go and hug a transformer and end your miserable existence. He is with me now. Click!!!

Oh!! So many scenarios played out in my head whenever he answered her calls. Not once did i say "don't". Would it have made any difference? Should i have answered and told her to back off or should i have told him to back off? Of course i told him i was uncomfortable with the calls but did that stop him from sleeping with her? Not at all. We all have different ways of reacting to situations in our lives. I'm naturally not a very patient person but in relationships i try my best to be. Cheating on the other hand is something i can never ever condone. It just consumes the patient I've tried so desperately to hold on to. People say he's a guy, cheating is what they do. Booshit-yes-not bullshit. I bet none of those people actually know that women are more likely to cheat---some of us just choose not to. Or you think we  don't have that ex who was actually better in bed than you? Negro please.

As i write this, I'm reminded of Elizabeth Taylor. I loved that woman but the whole she and Richard Burton's crap sent me into a frenzy. Yes they loved each other so much they married and divorced twice. This woman kept a letter from Burton on her bedside table for 27years and she had the freaking letter put in her coffin. 27 years! A letter from your ex husband? Are you insane? It made me feel sorry for Sally Hay. Oh! you don't know her? She was Burton's last wife, the one he lived with until his death. But of course the press rushed to interview Elizabeth even though they had been apart for years. When Elizabeth expressed a wish to be buried alongside her ex-husband, Sally had to buy the burial plot next to him.

For fucksake, someone should have told Elizabeth: Get a grip on your fucking life, he's maried to someone else and has been for years. Move the fuck on. Gosh!!!! I should have said that to my own ex-boyfriends ex. What a bloody joke....and yet people can't understand why i deliberately choose to remain single. Ex girlfriends are like a really bad case of herpes-you know they are there and they never go away.


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